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Republican Candidate: Women Cause 95 Percent of Divorces

One of Lindsay Graham’s countless (six) Republican primary challengers has drawn some fire over comments he made saying that women cause most divorces, even when it’s the man who runs out on them.

According to reports, Det Bowers, a former pastor at the Christ Church of the Carolinas, gave a sermon on divorce that raised some eyebrows. The sermon was available as a podcast but Bowers had it removed ahead of the upcoming GOP primary.

In a recording obtained by Politico, Bowers told his flock “I find that in about 95 percent of broken marriages, though the husband’s the one that ran out on the wife, the wife loves her children more than she does her husband. That is an abominable idolatry.”

He then turned to the women in his congregation, saying “Do you hear me, ladies? It is an abominable idolatry to love your children more than you love your husband, and it will ruin your marriage. And yet you blame it on him because he ran off with some other woman! He did run off with some other woman, and you packed his bags. All of his emotional bags, you packed for him. Is that true in every case? No, but it’s true in the vast preponderance of them.”

After Politico released the audio, Bowers released a statement saying “I wholeheartedly believe family is one of the cornerstones of our nation. As a pastor, steering my flock away from the destruction of the sacred union between husband and wife, mother and father, is one of my most important responsibilities — and a duty I will never shy away from. In this instance, I simply shared with the congregation the information I received from the couples I counseled.”

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  • Patricia B12345

    LADIES – NEVER, EVER, EVER MARRY THIS JERK.
    He will blame you for EVERYTHING. He gets mugged & you are no where
    around…. HE WILL STILL BLAME YOU. He looses all his hair & he’s
    an UGLY bald guy – IT WILL BE YOUR FAULT! He gets in an elevator at
    his office & it breaks and falls 65 stories – HE’LL BE A GHOST &
    haunt you because of course … IT IS ALL YOUR FAULT.

  • Grannyb2

    When a couple starts a family, it is in quiet agreement that the children will now come first. They are the helpless, the needy, the untrained, the consequential ones in the family unit. Both parents should be involved in the lives and upbringing of their children.
    Parents should know that the love that they have for the children is different than the love they have for each other. Any man (or woman) who mistakes good parenting for a diminished love for themselves is a fool. And a juvenile.
    When a person says–“I don’t feel like you love me as much as you do the children” it is they who don’t understand what love is.
    And just one more thing: when a man (speaking specifically of men because that is Bowers’ subject) goes off with another woman, it is more likely because she is younger and “makes him feel young again”, than because his wife loves their children.

    • Michelle Pellay-Walker

      This is the very reason that my husband and I chose not to have children. Selfish? Yes,…but also honest.

      • Grannyb2

        When people understand themselves enough to know that they would not make good parents, the best thing they can do is not have children.
        Too many people think of kids as a status symbol or an obligation.

      • AnnaMossity

        AMEN! I have chosen not to ever have children due to mental health issues (or “substance abuse,” depending on who’s doing the labeling), and you’d be amazed how often I have been accused of being “selfish”–I think it’s the exact opposite, and anyone with a modicum of understanding of genetics (and/or overpopulation, for that matter!) should agree.

    • Jr Leon

      I don’t completely agree with this. While my son is a top priority I can honestly say my wife is a step ahead of him. Part of giving my all to my son is keeping his mother happy so that I keep an intact family for him. Her happy to me says my boy will never know what divorce is all about first hand. If my son has two happy loving parents he will be a happy child who grows up in a loving home. Thankfully my wife is of the same mind when we discussed kids.

      • Grannyb2

        The first priority in keeping your wife happy is to ensure that the children are well cared for by both of you. Ask your wife if it is more important for her to have a new pair of shoes or for your child to have a college fund.
        I am not advocating giving up your date night because the kids are unhappy that you want time to yourselves or anything else of the sort. I am just saying that no one, man or woman, should feel abused or left out because children take time they feel should be theirs.
        I will grant you that sometimes women get so wrapped up in the kids that dad begins to feel like a paycheck only, but those relationships have problems beginning before the kids arrived. And they are certainly not 90% of the reason that men leave.
        People who love each other enough to have children together, should love each other enough to share and prioritize that love properly.

    • T-Rex

      Read the bible the pastor is right

  • diablodejalisco

    this is exactly what we do not need in congress. keep religion out of politics.

  • Rachel Graziose

    Men are jealous from Day One when thier children are born b/c they now realize they are not the center of thier wifes’ universe any longer.
    Call it what it is, Men.

    • Mule

      No, sorry. “Men” are not jealous of their kids any more than women envy penises. Your views are stuck in the 1950s just like Det Bowers.

      You see these stories, and wonder to yourself, “Who the hell sits in this guy’s church, listening to him spew this misogynistic clap trap?” Now you know — people like Rachel.

    • T-Rex

      Your spouse is always more important then your children for both genders

  • msaxie

    det bowers, maybe 95% of husbands are *ss hales like you are.But I doubt it.

  • Jr Leon

    Its weird that this man should know that God commands men to love their wives but no where does it command women to love their husbands.
    If a man loves his wife in the way God commands I can’t see why divorce would ever come up. Just my opinion.

    • T-Rex

      The bible address it’s commands to men because back then women were not the ones who read the bible, but it is meant for all genders both men and women

      • Jr Leon

        Actually the Bible starts with saying “Husbands” so it is addressed towards men. When talking about women it does start off with “Wives”.
        That way whomever was reading it would know who all needed to do what.

  • Johnson Mariella

    I agree with him