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Teen Girl Forced to Leave Prom After Ogling Dads Complained Her Dress Gives ‘Impure Thoughts’

A Virginia teen says she was forced to leave her prom after fathers who were chaperoning the dance complained that her dress could give people “impure thoughts.”

Claire, a 17-year-old attending the Richmond Homeschool Prom, is asking for a refund for her and her friends, who walked out of prom with her in a show of unity.

Claire said “we waited eagerly for Saturday to arrive. My dress was gorgeous, silver, and sparkly and I got it at Macy’s and was very excited to find it after searching over six stores for this dress.”

When she got to the prom, however, despite having met the guidelines for skirt length, she was told by an organizer “Honey, that dress is too short.” She was allowed in after showing that the dress met regulations.

Claire says “when I got into the ballroom I laughed, because I was surrounded by girls in much shorter dresses than me. We were also a little grossed out by all the dads on the balcony above the dance floor, ogling and talking amongst themselves.”

Then, an organizer approached her. Claire says “she told me that some of the dads who were chaperoning had complained that my dancing was too provocative, and that I was going to cause the young men at the prom to think impure thoughts.”

She was asked to leave. Her boyfriend asked if she and their friends could have their money refunded after having only been there was a half hour, but was told that only Claire’s money would be refunded.

Claire says “I was told that the way I dressed and moved my body was causing men to think inappropriately about me, implying that it is my responsibility to control other people’s thoughts and drives.”

She adds “I felt violated by the sheer amount of male parents that were assigned to do nothing for five hours other than watch girls in short dresses and heels dance to upbeat musing. I think that it is sick and wrong that they assigned them to sit on a balcony above us and look down on us and single us out for clothes or dancing.”

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  • Michael J.W. Thomas

    I tell ya, soon they’ll be burning witches at the stake. These parents should be the ones ejected!

  • John Hamilton Lohnes

    I think some male parents need a severe lesson on proper conduct. Forcing them to leave would have been a start. Publishing their names and a public shaming for oogling underage girls seems appropriate.

    • janetramos

      Oggling ..it has been happening from the beginning of TIME. .it its Most Important That MEN BE REAL MEN furthermore being GOOD ROLE MODELS …Not Oggling little Girls. SHAME ON THEM. SHAME SHAME is all I can come uo with

  • KyleHHI

    The Dads should be ashamed – this girl had a cute dress, was excited to be going to her prom, and these chaperones ruined it! How sad that they made her feel bad!

  • micky muxwell

    That’s the “American Way”—Hypocrisy!!

  • msaxie

    “…….get your minds out of the gutter, Dads.” We are women and we will not stay cloistered and wear widows weeds because you have a dirty mind.”

  • Demonicego

    These people are really ignorant and this is about more than a dress. Maybe something to do with her date would be the real issue.

  • Judy Eckerman Moore

    Why do these girls need to wear short short dresses, strapless etc. We had a certain dress code for prom. There was nothing wrong with that. Keep these teenagers teenagers..stop growing them up to 21 yr olds at 17!

    • diablodejalisco

      let them wear what they want to wear. this is 2014 and not 1914. you are living in the past.

    • Lauren B Conklin

      I totally agree with your comment.. They want attention and parade around in skimpy stuff that shows everything they got, which says “Look at me”, Then they say ” But don’t think anything bad or touch me” It’s the girls who are hypocritical , Not the fathers. Is modesty a thing of the past?

      • tdbeaton

        Lauren, did you look at the picture of her dress before your rant? Have you seen prom dresses? If grown men were uncomfortable watching teenagers dance then they should not be chaperones and have some serious issues.

      • Groovbaby

        THe fathers weren’t hypocritical? She adhered to the dress code, but beacuse the fathers thought she was attractive they punished her despite the fact that she had not broken any rule! She wasn’t dressed sexy or inappropriately and was still punished. You blame HER for the chaperones not being able to control their own sexual thoughts about a 17 YEAR OLD!!! What is wrong with you? The girl did nothing wrong, and this sort of shaming will never go away until people like you stop blaming the victim. Her once in a lifetime prom was ruined because middle aged men got hot under the collar for a minor. Disgusting.

      • dacr555

        The “impure thoughts” belonged to the men – not the girl. So who is at fault here? Not the girl.

    • Groovbaby

      Did you even read the article? Your comment is completely ridiculous with regards to this situation. Her dress DID conform to the dress code, and she showed them as much. They decided to shame this poor girl because of THEIR perverted thoughts and impulses. She did nothing wrong and you blame the girl for dressing to adult and trying to imply that she didn’t adhere to the dress code? Awful

  • diablodejalisco

    too much religion will do this to people. i think it was the dads that had the Impure thoughts. perverts.

  • danny

    Those dads need to become ‘real’ men and learn to control their ‘impure thoughts.’ Can’t blame them for having those thoughts it is only human, but that hasn’t anything to do with a lovely girl in a pretty dress. To blame her and not bother to look away, or think about other subjects is their own failings. They should be shamed for projecting their moral failings and ruining this girls prom.

  • wolfganger

    And you think THAT’S provocative? You have no clue what “provocative” is. THAT dress is about on the order of magnitude of a sackcloth at a nunnery.

  • Chathurika

    Young girls these days dress as prostitutes! Dad is right! I wonder why these parents do this to their children. Hollywood, mtv..etc making the mind of propel sick..this is why many girls dress as prostitute because mtv, Hollywood etc promote this. Young women of these days like attention! THEY WANT MAN to look at them..they want to show their legs..butt and breast! ……….. I also want the women to dress modestly, with decency and propriety, adorning themselves, not with elaborate hairstyles or gold or pearls or expensive clothes,1 Timothy 2:9

    • msaxie

      What about the millions of people who are not Christian? Are you trying to force your religion on others? If you are, don’t. In the United States we are allowed to practice our religion or lack of religion how we choose.

      • Chathu

        yes..you can believe what you want. Who is forcing here–? We the right to tell about our believe…but how can we force? its a personal

        • msaxie

          Religion is forced on people all the time with laws based on religious beliefs. The best example of this is Supreme Court Justice Scalia. The Supreme Court’s job is to interpret United State laws based on The Constitution. Yet Scalia openly admits that he bases his votes on his Christian religion. Tell me how that is not infringing the rights of American who are no Christian?